Friendship Breakups Hurt Just as Much as Romantic Ones
This one cuts deep. Whether you’ve been friends for 12 years or two, there’s something about having a friendship. Someone you can count on to make you laugh, cry on their shoulder, tell your deepest, darkest secrets to, and share your life with that makes a breakup, or even a slow fade over time, incredibly gut-wrenching.
Looking back on memories with people you once classed as your best friends, only to not even have a conversation with them anymore, is just sad. But sometimes it’s needed for growth. Certain friends come into your life when you’re less mature and need someone on your wavelength. As you get older, you change as a person and so do your friendships, and that’s not a bad thing.
We’re human; we’re meant to evolve and walk our own paths in life. That doesn’t mean looking back on those moments won’t still leave you with a slightly broken heart.
Even bad fallouts with friends hurt. At the time, you might be shouting from the rooftops, “Fuck them - who are they anyway?” But over time, you remember the good moments and find yourself missing them.
As a Cancer star sign, I understand that sometimes I can go from 1 to 100. From being the nicest person in the world to turning into the Incredible Hulk the moment you cross me. I had a situation like this with an old friend, and I recently tried to reach out and apologise. It wasn’t taken in the way I hoped, and that’s okay. I can still remember the good times with that person, enjoy the Snapchat memories every now and then, and hold those moments in a different headspace. I think that’s important for growth and maturity.
Other times, all it takes is one person to reach out and reconnect, and suddenly you’re back on top of the world again with your bestie by your side. Don’t wait ten years to say sorry, or sit there thinking, “What if I spoke to them? They could have been at my wedding.” It’s not worth letting it eat you up.
Friendship breakups are rarely talked about, yet they leave scars just as deep as romantic ones. Some friendships are meant to last a lifetime, while others are only meant to walk with us for a chapter. Both still matter. It’s okay to grieve friendships that have ended, to miss people who are no longer in your life, and to honour what they once meant to you. Growth doesn’t always mean holding on. Sometimes it means letting go with love, forgiveness, and gratitude for the memories that helped shape who you are today.
Ciao for now…
S x
